narcissism

I was called selfish recently. I didnt take it very well. Then this person proceeded to tell me this everyday in emails and decided to label me narcissistic. I welcome constructive feedback, and look inside to see if peoples reflections are true for me. At what point is feedback abusive though?
I can admit to having some ego that I could let go of. We all do. It is my ego that enjoys posting on facebook and blogs. It is my ego that says 'wait, stop calling me selfish'. But really.... narcissistic? I dont believe in labels. I think we all have issues that come and go. Fear comes and goes. I wanted to ask him "is there a pill for that?" That is pretty much the point of labeling someone bi polar, ADD or anything else right? Then you know what pill to give them.
Narcissistic or not, I dont think there is a pill for me.
This person was nice enough to give me a book for my birthday called "Why is it Always about You". I dont have it in front of me, when I do I can add in the rest of the title and author.
I am almost done with the book and I dont feel much better. I feel better having more knowledge on the subject, but more depressed about the state of society. More and more people are getting more and more selfish, raising selfish babies. The book describes how addiction is selfish. Basically anyone who is addicted, is a narcissist... that makes sense. I wonder what the percentage of addicted people is these days.
When someone is surrounded by selfish people, guess what? They take on those attributes, big surprise.
I know I am not selfish. Are there any moms reading this who have been called selfish? If you are a mom, how would it feel for you to be called selfish?
Moms have the hardest, most challenging, never ending, lowest paying, least selfish job in the world.
What I am asking for this year, is for me and all moms, to surround themselves with a loving supportive network of friends.

2011 will bring me
more loving friends
who are
emotionally healthy
supportive
motivated
grateful
part of my community
available
happy
and I will have the knowledge and strenth to know the difference!